Yep, time flies when you’re havin fun… You know you’re the fat friend in a group when you will not (no matter how hungry you are) be the first one to say you’re hungry. One of the things I’ve come to understand is that, when you’re strangermeetup com single, hating your body is more or less a victimless crime, if you don’t count yourself. When you get into a relationship, however, it becomes a constant referendum on the tastes and judgment of the person who loves you.

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It is not a jumping-off point to lecture people about weight, say that men have it equally bad, or share diet tips for anyone reading. I just want to say that this whole thread made me end up tears. I grew up being the only fat friend and, while my friends were sympathetic, they never understood. Sometimes I felt like they thought I was exaggerating. This brings me solace in that fact that I know that I wasn’t imagining the treatment and that there are people out there who truly understand. I have a best friend since I was 6 she’s very petite and shy.

Sexualised and gendered slurs (slut, whore, bitch) are also ubiquitous. Student Laura Thompson’s PhD research investigates women’s experiences of harassment and sexual violence whilst using dating apps, which she says has become “more visible”. She says women face a “never-ending task” to protect themselves from unwanted attention and this “unjust burden” is becoming worse with new communication methods. My high school friend group was made up of people of all shapes and sizes, so I wasn’t the only fat one. It helped me a lot to have people who I could relate to and support in the struggle.

What should have alarmed me was the cursory way the doctor responded to our questions, and maybe the way he whined about health-care reform. But now, after two failed operations on my son’s hand, I think I should have also paid attention to my deep misgivings when the doctor first walked through the examining room door—because he was fat. She published a study on the Bye Felipe and Tinder Nightmares social media pages, which publish examples of messages that women have received. “The most common type of insult were those that targeted a woman’s appearance,” she notes (these include “fat”, “ugly”, etc).

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And nobody trusts what I have to say about work because I’m just the young, pretty, skinny girl. Obviously I am not trying to complain here, but it does really suck sometimes to have very little real interaction. A few years later while we were dating, we traveled for his brother’s wedding, meeting my now-SIL for the first time. I think she was about my size or a little bigger than I was at the time. At one point we were talking while she had stepped away and my now-BIL said (in context, not out of the blue) how much he loves her ass. I had a very good looking group of friends in high school, so guys would be most comfortable approaching me but end up trying to get with them.

She, however, was super upset I hadn’t told her I was planning on loosing weight. Once I left again our texts became more and more rare until eventually I realised she had deleted me off social media platforms and is now best friends with a girl who is bigger then me at my heaviest. When you’re just there to make others feel good about themselves or as a sort of guard dog, it’s hard to feel like you have a genuine personal value.. Most of my friends – of varying degree of closeness – are the best hypepeople, and it’s never patronizing coz it always feels sincere.

I was always one of those “skinny” girls and had lots of attention from boys, but I weirdly had very low self-esteem. I have always been drawn towards women with bigger, more confident personalities. Larger women tend to give off that sort of vibe. I was not overweight in high school at all, actually quite fit.

Sadly enough, this kind of weight bias also seems to extend to people who are formerly obese (i.e., thin people with a history of obesity). One 2003 study into ratings of attractiveness showed that thin targets who are described as formerly obese tend to be rated as less attractive than targets for whom no weight history was provided. Other researchers looking at mate choices in undergraduates found that thin males are less likely to view formerly obese individuals as potential mates. This appears to stem from the belief that the weight loss is only temporary and that they lack the kind of discipline that would make them ideal relationship choices. And so I did what many fat girls in my situation have done; I started dieting. That quickly turned into long bouts of starvation that continued into my college years.

I barely even notice how much people eat because I’m focused on hanging out. I never thought about how someone might be experiencing this. I hope it helps at all for me to tell you that I’ve never thought any differently about my fat friends being hungry or wanting to get dessert than I would myself.

For instance, my husband has a younger cousin who had the nickname „Gorda“ (fatty). She was NOT fat, but had a little bit of baby chub. I told my husband that he should stop doing that, because even though it’s a normal cultural thing where he’s from, she is growing up in America, and will end up taking in the word as an American. He ignored me and several years later, she ended up with an ED.

I’ve been trained well; I see thin and fit people as beautiful. I have seen them photographed in the most flattering light. But we also know, deep down, that that isn’t true. Instead of looking beyond physical beauty, then, we should take a long, hard look at it. I do this all the time, because I see beauty so differently than most people.

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